As For Me and My House

Proverbs 31 Bible Study

Month: June, 2012


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Welcome back to week 3 in our Proverbs 31 series.

Today we are up to verses 12,13, & 14 – they say:

12 She brings him good, not harm,
all the days of her life.
13 She selects wool and flax
and works with eager hands.
14 She is like the merchant ships,
bringing her food from afar.

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We see in verse 12, the Proverbs 31 woman stays true to her marriage vows. She is with her husband all the days of her life.

We see in verse 13, her attitude towards work. She works with eager hands!

And we see in verse 14, that the very basic necessity of feeding her family is a task that she does with great attention and care.She is like a merchant ship – who travels off to distant places and brings in unique cargo that you can’t just get at the corner store.

Recently my husband replaced our 15 year old washing machine because it had broken. So he asked me how it was working for me just this past Wednesday…it just so happened that while I was doing laundry that day, I paused, prayed and thanked God for my washing machine. I am so sincerely thankful for my washer and my 15 year old dryer. I was able to tell my husband, “I am overflowing with joy for it – I thanked God for it today!” and I thanked him for buying it for me.

In the same way, often times after grocery shopping – I pop my trunk and just pause and say a prayer of thankfulness for the trunk full of food. I have had my kids, right in the grocery store, say a sentence prayer while waiting in line – thanking God for our cart of groceries.

When we come to a massive mound of dirty laundry that we are about to tackle, I believe that pausing and thanking God that our family has all these clothes can change our perspective and help us come to our tasks with eager hands.

Our challenge this week:

Look at the menial tasks of doing laundry, grocery shopping and cooking as a noble task that God has called us to. Come to these tasks with an eager attitude. If this is a struggle for you – pray and ask God to help you. Get on your knees and thank God that he has provided for our basic needs of clothing and food and never stop giving thanks! Bring your kids along side of you and let them offer up a prayer of thanksgiving too.

Walk with the King,



I hope everyone read and was able to reflect on last week’s reading, Proverbs 31: 10-11 and the additional verses.  I wanted to post last Friday, however, my family has been a little under the weather and my internet has been giving me a fit!!!  I have actually typed this post 3 times!!  I lost it twice, due to a poor signal…

I know that all of us are so busy.  It does take a lot of discipline to stick to a study like this, and I commend you all for checking in with the blog and sticking to the readings…even if it does mean playing catch up every few days! 😉

Ok, so where were we…Friday’s Discussion Questions:

1.  One important lesson I want to remember from this (last) week’s reading would be:

For me this would definitely be from Proverbs 31, verse 11:

Her husband has full confidence in her
and lacks nothing of value. NIV

To me this means that I am responsible for taking care of “my duties”.  Do you have things around the house that you are responsible for?  Not just because you are a female and it’s a “woman’s duty” to take care of, but more so because you are just naturally better at such things, and your family “works” more smoothly when you take care of them rather than someone else.  Well I do, and sometimes when I don’t prioritize my day to get these thing done as I should, I am caught trying to play catch up for days!

2.  Is there anything God has laid upon your heart this week that you need to change?  Ask God to help you be the wife and mother (future wife and/or future mother) He has made you to be!  With God’s help we can be this!

When I read Proverbs 31:11, I felt that I should guard my emotions and attitude throughout the day. I know you have all heard the saying “if Mama ain’t happy, ain’t nobody happy”….well for most of us, we are the “Mama”.  We are responsible for the mood in our homes.  That is a tremendous amount of responsibility, especially if we have young children because we are helping to shape their disposition and outlook on life.  From time to time I have gotten so caught up in “me” and how my day went, at work or with the children, when I am talking to my husband in the evenings, I don’t think about how this may be affecting his mood.  He should have full trust  and confidence in me to take my issues to my Heavenly Father, and allow him to speak peace into my heart.  My husband should have full confidence in me to guard my emotions, so that I won’t bring further conflict or emotional strife into our home.

4 Rejoice in the Lord always. I will say it again: Rejoice!5 Let your gentleness be evident to all. The Lord is near.6 Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God.7 And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.  Philippians Chapter 4 NIV

3.  No woman is perfect and we all make mistakes, but is there any area of your life that you struggle with?  If so, go to God.  Seek his help and wisdom.  If you feel your husband doesn’t have full confidence in you, talk with him about it.  Pray with him and try to make those changes.

I found that by asking my husband “What is at least one thing that I can do everyday to help you, or to make your day better that I’m not doing” is a good start to further serve our husbands.  Sometimes it’s something very simple that we as wives can do but we have somehow overlooked.  It may make the biggest difference in their day!  Who knows, when you ask them…they may even ask you in return 😉

4.  I am going to be more intentional by:

Being kind to my husband.

Let’s take a look a the meaning of intentional, something done on purpose.  Why would we need to make a special effort to be kind.  Well I do…..even though I am not really unkind.  I am nice to everyone I meet outside of my home, but in my home I feel like I am being nice, but a lot of times I have so much on my mind, ESPECIALLY since having the twins, that I catch myself blurting out something for my husband to do to help me.  The truth is, I’m moving at such a fast pace trying to care for my babies or do something around the house, that I’m trying to tell him before I forget and move on to the next task.  I don’t mean any harm, I’m usually not in a bad mood at all, but my tone says otherwise. I just need to slow down, be INTENTIONAL, tack on a “please” and “thank you”…..and work on that gentle, quiet spirit that the Bible tells us to have in I Peter.  This is a tough one!!

3 Your beauty should not come from outward adornment, such as elaborate hairstyles and the wearing of gold jewelry or fine clothes.4 Rather, it should be that of your inner self, the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is of great worth in God’s sight.5 For this is the way the holy women of the past who put their hope in God used to adorn themselves.   I Peter 3:4 NIV

Please share your thoughts on the discussion questions if you would like.  I would love to know what in on your heart…


“As iron sharpens iron, so one man sharpens another.” ~ Proverbs 27:17~

Love in Christ,